All of us in this world have dreams
and the means to realize them. Many people have the potential to become great –
great actors, politicians, writers, teachers, physicians, and the list goes on
and on. From the time, we were young, we have always dreamt of becoming
something – anything – both big and small. Do you remember wanting to become a
superhero when you were small? Did you not want to reach the moon or build your
own spaceship? Did you not ever dreamt of fighting galactic battles with space
invaders or the likes? All of us have something we wanted to be at some point
in our lives
As we grow older, our dreams become
more realistic and pragmatic. We turn to people who want to become something
within our reach. And we still have the potential to reaching these more
down-to-earth dreams. These dreams might be as simple as wanting to become
better people while others desire much more such as success in the financial
aspect. All of us hold the power to become what we want. We can be what we want
to be.
However, along the way of trying to
achieve these dreams, we become ridden with various things such as pride that
hinder us from accepting other people’s help. We start to develop an air of
ambiguousness about our beliefs so as not to be questioned, committing
ourselves to too many tasks at hand, becoming fickle and indecisive about
things that really matter, and becoming overcome with doubts. All of these
undermine out efforts to do better and to achieve our projected goals. These
can all be called self-sabotage. Whenever you get hold back at work, whenever
someone else is promoted ahead of you, ask yourself what the reason is. There
are times when you do not realize your potential not because of the lack of
abilities or the desire to achieve success but because you fear moving forward
and accepting change into your life. Even if you know what you want, you have
been holding yourself back and do not even know about it.
Sometimes you might be caught up in
your desires other than achieving what you want. It is easy to be sidetracked
by television or other hobbies, which might hinder your growth. When you are
facing challenging situations, sometimes it is so much easier to just ignore
the matter altogether and retreat inside yourself, protected in your own little
sanctuary. After all, facing challenges, trials, and having to make difficult
and life-changing decisions could be very frightening for anyone. However, if
you refuse to see your problems face-to-face, the more you are buried deep in
despair and stagnation, the more you damage your self-worth. And then the cycle
starts again. Do not let this happen. If you put achieving your goal up to
later, you might forget you have done so and come to believe that you do not
have the abilities to reaching your goal.
If you have done any of the above
things mentioned, then now you know that you have been sabotaging yourself.
However, do not despair. Remember this point in your life and avoid repeating
it. By culminating self-subversion, you will always know what kind of person
you are and avoid this compromising situation. Always find time to examine
yourself and see if you have been sabotaging your own efforts. Do not be afraid
to face ugly facts about yourself for those are still part of your whole. If
you can accept yourself for who you are including your faults, the risks of
self-sabotage is then low and you can be sure you will be realizing your goals
sometime soon.
