Self-subversion is a conscious effort
to understand our minds. We can make a determined effort to know the way we
think. This can be done by drawing inferences from past experience.
We can know why we have a fear for a
particular activity or object by delving deep into the way we reacted to that
fear or object. This will give us a better insight into our inner-minds. Once
we understand the basic cause of the fear, we can take steps to overcome it.
Do you remember your first day at
school? Were you afraid to leave your mom and dad to go to a new place? After a
while, you enjoyed going to school. How was this possible? By analyzing and
understanding, the way you overcame this fear can help you to conquer any other
fear that you have.
Our behavior is highly influenced by
external forces. These forces could include the various events that happen
around us like violence, racism, poverty, crime, abuse and much more. They are
mostly negative than positive. Like our past experience, we can also draw
inference from these events. We can analyze our reaction to a particular event
and then analyze the cause-effect relationship. By determining the cause and by
understanding the effect, we can make a premeditated decision to overcome any
negative effect of that event.
Understanding our fear and taking
steps to overcome them will go a long way in making us self-reliant. Our
dependence on external factors and our fear or reluctance to do a certain
activity will be greatly reduced. This will give us the self-confidence to
achieve whatever we want.
To achieve self-reliance and self-confidence,
we must fundamentally believe that we can change the way we think and act. We
must move from a negative-centric world to a positive-centric world. We must
make a conscious decision to close our mind to anything negative. At the
outset, we must comprehend the fact that there are some things in us that have
to be changed for us to become better individuals. Every thing in this world
has a cause-effect relationship.
Fundamentally, we must analyze and
understand the cause of a particular behavior or action. After understanding
the reason for a particular behavior or action, we can take determined steps to
change that.
For example, you are drastically
affected by war and other killings and because of this, you are paranoid about
travelling. This paranoia can be conquered. The first step is to accept the
fact that you are paranoid about travelling due to the fear of being killed.
After that, you can dig deep into your mind to understand why war and killings
affect you so much. It could be because of some murder that you saw when you
were young or it could due to some show on the television or it could be due to
a book you read or a movie that you watched. Now that you have understood the
cause, you must take steps to address it. You can decide to close yourself to
any kind of negative event like killing and war. When you keep making
determined effort over a period of time, you will realize that your paranoia
has decreased. It cannot happen over-night. It will happen over a period of
time and this period is very subjective. But remember, that you should believe
that you can change all through the way.
A self-reliant person radiates with
confidence and motivation. He/she can be a guiding light for others.
Self-reliant people can motivate themselves and others to achieve a target or
to accomplish a mission. They can instill confidence in others propelling them
to become better individuals.
When every person becomes
self-reliant and motivated, we can annihilate the evils existing today to give
an improved world for the future generations. Writing is the way to healing.
